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Last hope: to fall in the Land of Oz by ark4n @ Deviantart, (CC BY-NC-SA 3.0)

The above image is what your mind imagines when you brace yourself for a social situation. Your brain likes to make your fears high risk. You tell yourself, “there’s a pretty high chance that after I do that presentation, people are going to remember me as that incompetent loser who can’t speak up”. Let’s say that your anxiety warps it into a 1 in 2 chance.

But we are going to defeat that possibility with a bit of multiplication.

Step one: Break it down into factors.

1) That a lack of preparation could sabotage you. Let’s say you did more than enough, though.

2) How much people will really remember – everyone is invested into their own lives: that uni party they’re missing, their families, the busy traffic, that train they will have to run for, and whatever else.

3) What are the chances that people will think less of you over a bad presentation? Outside of social anxiety, presentations can be stressful for many people. Most people would be understanding.

Step two: Estimate the probability of each factor

1) Well you did prepare, so the likelihood of sabotage is 1 in 100.

2) Everyone is selfish. Let’s face it. So they will probably forget. 1 in 100.

3) Chances that people will think less of you? Let’s place that at 1 in 50.

Step three: Multiply!

100 x 100 x 50 = 1 in 500 000 chance

Doesn’t seem so daunting now, right?

So when your social anxiety tries to find evidence of your screw ups, break it down with this more concrete, rational method. It really helps to separate yourself from your fear and panic.

Let me know – does this work for you in situations of anxiety and stress? Why/why not?

– Polaris